Life is change, change is pulse, pulse is a motion, a “balance” between extremes.
Realization, thus joy and happiness, can be seen as balance between force and compassion.
Compassion is trying to understand and help others, knowing that together, we are ultimately a whole being.
Force is, in the meantime, don’t let others (expecially those lacking a compassionate behaviour) overwhelm your purpose.
From this understandings:
I don’t tell you what to do and don’t expect you to tell me what I have to.
I don’t judge you, and gently ignore every judgment you express on me.